Get Out There…

So I have this friend. She’s absolutely beautiful. She’s fire, magic and well, sex all rolled into one. She’s been through some stuff that’s knocked her a bit but otherwise she has everything going for her. Problem is, she’s getting to that stage where she NEEDS to meet someone. For the sake of her future and to not be left ‘on the bench’ so to speak.

But she point blank, refuses to date. I mean she used to and got fed up with all the small talk, being let down, guys that talked the talk but didn’t walk the walk and all the other usual drama us girls go through when single and dating. Now, I totally get that vibe, there’s been plenty of times where I’ve thought ‘oh gaaaad not this again’ I mean I HATE the early dating stages. It reminds me of a job interview. Same basic questions over and over again. Where do you live? What do you do? What are your hobbies? So, so, so mundane. But then what are the options? To do it and deal with the bullshit until one comes along that changes your mind, or to stay in, alone for the REST OF YOUR LIFE and think of a future surrounded by cats? I know what I’d rather do…. (although the cat option does sometimes pop into my mind, can’t be that bad surely?)

Anyway, my point is that us girls NEED to get out there as much as we can. Yes, this dating thing is like a career in itself but prince charming isn’t going to come and knock on your door while you’re watching reruns on friends in your pyjamas that have a ketchup stain on the knee is he? NO.

So ladies, my advice to you is yes - while they can be seedy sometimes, get on the dating apps., get introduced by friends, go out to bars and clubs and pubs and restaurants and wherever else floats your boat but GO OUT. Meet people, meet men, it will help boost your confidence which is priceless and master what you want and more importantly, what you don’t. Dating men is a learning curve. Trust me. Go out there, get out there and do me a favor….thank me for it later!